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Introducing 10 Rules for Brilliant Women, by Tara Sophia Mohr

October 17, 2011

I thought I would start sharing a weekly email I receive: 10 Rules for Brilliant Women by Tara Sophia Mohr.

Along with posting the email content, I invite you to join along with me in this journey!


Rule #1: Make a Pact

No one else is going to build the life you want for you. No one else will even be able to completely understand it. The most amazing souls will show up to cheer you on along the way, but this is your game. Make a pact to be in it with yourself for the long haul, as your own supportive friend at every step along the way.

Being my own supportive friend along the way means that when I screw up, I will. . . (tell myself this, do this, seek this kind of support, take this kind of attitude)
When I want to do something but I’m scared, I will. . . (tell myself this, do this, seek this kind of support, take this kind of attitude)
When I get a new creative idea, I will treat it with. . .
When I feel someone is mistreating me, I will. . .
When I don’t execute on these intentions and vows, instead of beating myself up or feeling like a failure, I’ll simply. . .

Who do you want to be, in relationship to yourself? What are the roles you’d like to play, in relationship to yourself? Pick five new descriptors that resonate for you. (Example: I’d like to be a champion for myself. An ally. A steady friend. An enthusiastic cheerleader.)

What are some of the old roles you’d like to let go of?
(Ideas to jumpstart your thinking: I’d like to let go of being a censor, a tough critic, an unrelenting skeptic.)


Each day this week, pick one of your five descriptors for your new relationship with yourself, and use that phrase as your touchstone, your guidepost for how you relate to yourself.

For example, let’s say on Monday you choose the phrase “steady friend.” Throughout the day – keep checking in with yourself – how would you be acting, what would you be doing, what would you be saying – if you were being a steady friend to yourself at this moment?

Changing our relationship with ourselves is much easier said than done. Of course it’s not enough to just write the intentions, and pick the words. But the words matter. Setting intention matters. Creating a vision for a different kind of relationship with ourselves matters. All of that makes a difference.